Lets talk about life

                                                           Lets talks about life

Life? It's a wonderful thing, a gift. It has its ups, it has such a beauty, such grace. You can do so much with life, live it, embrace it, conquer things, see things, travel, educate, learn and so much more. 

But - what do we do when life feels like it's knocking us down like a ton of bricks?

Many, give up. Many succumb to the depths of despair, they succumb to their overwhelming feeling of hopelessness. Thus they turn to various acts to get by.

Others find inner strength, they keep on keeping on, they push on through, they crack on, they carry on and they flourish. They get through, find the light and things DO get better, no matter how dark things may have seemed before. 

You see, life will have its ups and downs, nobody sails through life without them. Even if they seem to on instagram and Facebook. Everybody has their demons. Social media has a habit of showing us the good sides of life. As a result we presume that the person we are following has a perfect life and we then compare our lives to theirs, leading us to become envious or even sad that our lives aren't as 'perfect' as theirs seems. 

We often compare during life, we compare ourselves all the time. We compare our bodies, our homes, our lives, our clothes, the amount of money we make. I too am guilty of doing this. I have compared myself so much I have lost who I am, I have lost touch with myself. I no longer feel that I am worthy of anything I have accomplished, I no longer feel that I am good enough because I don't seem to match any of the people I compare myself too. 

I am blessed In my life, I have a loving family, I have a roof over my head, I have education, I have health. Why do I need to compare myself? the truth is, I just don't feel satisfied with myself, which in itself is a very sad concept. We shouldn't ever feel this way. We have ourselves for the rest of our lives and it is imperative that we learn to appreciate and love ourselves. 

I suffer with body dysmorphia, I am obsessed with the way I look, not for vanity reasons. But, I am severely self conscious. I don't like my nose, my eyes, my lips, my ears, my body. Yet, my instagram shows a different version, selfies, smiling videos and fun. We all wear masks. Nobody will see the pain I feel behind my mask because on social media I convey a fun, happy and bubbly person. Of course I'm not going to show anything else, after all, isn't it about getting followers?

I have recently learned that I no longer care for followers, I want to use my platform on social media to raise awareness. Raise awareness for causes such a mental health. Which is very close to my heart. 

I used to think I wanted fame and fortune. Little did I know that really what I was seeking in my life was happiness, acceptance and appreciation. I have found this out now. I don't really need fame and fortune to be someone. I just need to be me, I need to find true happiness, I need to love myself, appreciate myself and what will be will be. The right friends will come along, success will come along, and with hard work the right career path will fall into place. 

We spend our lives questioning 'what is the meaning of life?' I believe we actually need to question 'how can I truly be happy?' this is where you will find meaning. We need to figure out how to truly embrace lives, embrace ourselves and live life to the fullest. Of course there will be ups and downs, but there is always a light, you must push on. Head up, shoulders back, chest proud and keep on keeping on. Yes, you may find you compare yourself to others, but learn to appreciate yourself. Embrace the journey, learn to love your journey. Everyone is enduring a journey. including you. Learn to love yourself more, appreciate yourself. If you want to buy that top, buy it, walk with confidence and damn well ROCK IT! 

We cannot be consumed by the harshness life can throw at us, we must battle on through fight back. Structure and discipline, find your purpose. Everybody has a purpose, including you. 

With that, I will love you and leave you,

Food for thought. 

Live Free

FF